Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Valentine's Whoas

I have come to the sad realization that my insecure feelings and dislike of my body are getting in the way of my marriage. I think a lot of people can sympathize with not wanting to be intimate because you just don't feel good about yourself. Some days I don't even want to snuggle with my honey because I'm afraid he'll notice my added padding. News Flash: He already knows about my added padding and still says I'm beautiful. It's been almost 2 years of added padding (thanks to pregnancy) and he's still with me.

But even with this knowledge it can still be hard for me. Then you have a big LOVE holiday coming up and there you have it, insecure all over the board. Since my hubby is still hanging around I think it is safe to assume that there is more to our relationship than appearance. Actually, that is one of the things I loved most about Ammon before we were married. I knew he was into me despite my looks. And I love that. I love him for a lot more than his appearance (although I do confess I am more attracted to him than anyone else I've ever laid eyes on).

Our Engagement Pictures. See, he's gorgeous. 

So if our relationship is about more than the physical our dates and even Valentine's Day should be as well. And they are. But sometimes our dates lack creativity. I believe that we should actively be trying to get closer to our husbands. As we grow together we can remember all the reasons we fell in love in the first place and even discover new things we love. With so many things to love we realize that the physical is not everything.

Thus, I have been searching the web for ways to make Valentine's Day a fun day that has nothing to do with . . . well, maybe some to do with . . .

Anyway. For all you marrieds out there that would like to do something fun, creative, inexpensive, and shall we say insecure feelings free, may I show you a few fun blogs with date ideas and such?

The Dating Divas
Love, Actually
Simply Sweet Marriage

These are just some favorites of mine. Feel free to leave a comment with any of your favorites. I'd love to look them up.

P.S. This isn't just for Valentine's day. This is for any time you need a date with your lover. Dating and having fun together is how you fell in love after all. It should help you stay in love. And I believe fun things like this can bring us closer together with our spouse and help us let go of those insecure feelings.

Happy Valentine's Day (soon).

1 comment:

The Welchers said...

I love this. I feel this way a lot. Our first anniversary wasn't that great because for this exact reason. Russia's got nothing on this weight. I really wish I could see you sometime. It's hard having no money. Happy Valentine's Day